BILLIONAIRE KIDNAPPER, EVANS, WIFE; WAS SHE AWARE?

Being the wife / mother of a kidnapper/criminal;

Is it possible to be living with a man and not know what he does for a living? To that question I will say a very big yes and a very big  no too.

How so? Some men can be very secretive and can keep on their own. A man would only want you to know what he wants you to know. That you are a man’s wife does not mean you must know what he is doing. 

 Some men may even get angry if you put your mouth/nose into his business or if you ask questions concerning what you don’t know or what you want to know.

Evans wife lived in the same house with him for years and have five kids for him; she only relocated to Ghana few days before her husband’s arrest. To me it means she was fully aware of her husband’s dealing. She was comfortable with it, and enjoying the ill gotten money.

I heard she knew what the man does and also played a role of an accountant. Can she claim she does not know, when she lives with arms and ammunitions under her roof ? 

I heard a story of one woman whose husband is or rather was a ritualist, she didn’t know what the man does, and she only knew that he has a shop filled with electronics. She only found out what her husband does when her only brother living with them went missing, and it happened that her husband had killed the boy for sacrifice. The worst part is that the boys’ head was still in their house as at the time of her husband’s arrest.

However, how can a woman live under the same roof with a man and claim ignorant of his dealings/business.

Any marriage the woman does not know what her husband does, the woman must be her husbands’ business partner, or maybe it is a contract marriage.

He told you he does import/export, general merchandise, did you ask import and export of what. He told you he is an agent, did you ask agent of what or who. So many women won’t mind if their husband is into 419, provided money flows.

Some women won’t mind what a man does for a living provided money is coming in, some will even encourage and support their men to continue living a life of crime.

Kidnapping is a big crime against God and humanity and should be punishable by death, but then, the women in a man’s life played some role in the criminal life of a man.

The role of the wife;

WOMEN! WOMEN! WOMEN!

Women has a very big role in their husbands lifestyle, how a woman behaves and handles issues, has a role to play in the life her husband chooses.

My point exactly;

When your husband was broke what did do you do? How did you handle it?

Were you always nagging him, calling him names, denying him sex because of money? Telling him to go and do what his fellow men are doing.Your attitude can push your husband into crime. Some men may not go into crime but may start borrowing, borrowing to just gain his wife's respect. Did you not know his financial status before marrying him? Or something happened to the money along the line and you forgot he once had money and provided for you.

Have you seen a man his wife nags everyday because of money? He can do anything for money.

Frustration can push a man into crime, wanting to please his wife can push a man into crime. No man will be happy when he can’t take care of his wife.

His wife supported his life of crime, she has to charged for being an accomplice.

THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION FOR CRIME….

In some cases when you blame the man, also remember there is a woman behind him or with him.

Every man wants to give his family a good life, wants to answer a real man and do what his fellow men do.

But then I don’t subscribe to crime in any way, but every crime a man commits has a genesis from his mother or his wife.

Ok, you never nagged your husband about money or denied him sex because he did not fulfill his financial obligations to you.

What did you do when you noticed he was doing something illegal? Did you keep quiet? Did you talk or complain? Did you enjoy the illegal money with him without minding where it came from?

The role of the mother;

Yes, I think or believe what a child turns out to be, largely depends on the mother and how she raised her child. I know that after raising a child, the society also plays a role in the child’s life.

But then, while raising a child you must notice some negative behaviors especially during teenage years or even childhood days. Some mothers will notice these behaviors and wave it off, or not bother about it or say he/she is just a child.  Or maybe some mothers are too busy to even notice their children's  behavior. Your child comes back  home from school with an item that does not belong to him/her and you won’t ask questions, you won’t scold or correct that child, dear mother you are indirectly raising a criminal.

Your child did something bad and your husband raised his voice or flogged the child and you, the mother, picked offense, why would the father flog the child over a minor issue. Give it time that minor issue will turn into crime. 

I also heard that Evans father said his wife, that is Evans mother, is to be blamed for his sons life of crime. I also heard the mother never collected a dime from him, she was not in support of his criminality. But still she raised him.

RAISE UP A CHILD IN THE WAY HE/SHE SHOULD GROW, WHEN HE IS GROWN HE WILL NOT DEPART FROM IT.

THE MANS ROLE;

The man is the architect of his own problem. His love for money drove him into crime. The love of money is the root of all evil. He wants fast and quick without minding if anyone is hurt or dies in the process.

He is to blame 100% for being a criminal, nobody forced him to join crime, even if the wife or mother bought him his first gun and introduced him to crime, he has the right to say no to a life of crime.

THE PSYCHOLOGICAL EFFECT ON THE CHILDREN? 

Having a kidnapper as a father and living with it for the rest of your life, does it have any psychological effect? The stigmatization they have to live with for the rest of their lives because of a criminal father.

WHO DID YOU THINK SHOULD BE BLAMED EVANS, HIS WIFE OR HIS MOTHER? 

DROP YOUR COMMENTS IN THE COMMENT FORM.

ALL OF THEM PLAYED A ROLE. EVEN HIS FATHER.