THE SPERM DONOR HUSBAND/FATHER ; FATHERS DAY EDITION.

The ceremonial husband/father.

HAPPY FATHERS DAY TO OUR DEAR FATHERS.

I’m sure every man will go to church on fathers Sunday, graciously dressed in his white and white or fathers uniform, to dance and rejoice for the gift of being a man and fatherhood. 
It is not every married man that is a husband or a father.

 
But then, it takes more than paying a woman’s bride prize to be a husband. And as well, it takes more than impregnating a woman and having a child to be a father.

Who is a husband?

A husband is more than a man who marries a woman, he is more than a man who gets a woman pregnant, and he is more than a man who a woman bears his name.

A husband is a man who truly understands that his wife is a woman, weaker than he is in all ramifications, he is a man who loves, adores, cherishes, appreciates and cares for the woman he call his wife. He is a man that creates time for his wife.

He is not a sperm donor husband who dashes into the house after work, takes his bath, eats and sleeps off.  A husband does more than that.

Seeing my parents together since I was born, and how they relate with each other, made me not to have a second thought about what marriage is, when the marriage proposal came.

My father would wait for my mother to finish whatever she was doing before he takes his night bath, because they must bath together, he does not mind if his food gets cold any day my mom was busy, he must wait for her, because they must eat together. Those two can be very funny, if my mom says she will be sleeping on the couch , my father would want to sleep on the couch too. My father calls my mother’s bedroom, packing store; I can’t remember my parents sleeping in different rooms or separately even for one night.   

I WONDER IF THEY STILL DO ANYTHING IN THE OTHER ROOM SEF.

A sperm donor husband does not care; he does his things on his own. He believes his job is to drop money and probably have sex.

A sperm donor husband is a night walker; he leaves the house in the morning and crawls back home at night when everyone had slept.

A sperm donor husband goes for every occasion alone like he is still single, even when the invitation card reads Mr. and Mrs.

 A sperm donor husband is too busy to have time for his wife. 

 A sperm donor husband works Monday to Friday and then hangs out with the guys over the weekend; I wonder where and how that timetable captures his wife.

A sperm donor husband does not know his wife’s favorite food, color, friend, television channel, dress etc. because he is too busy to care or know.
A sperm donor husband cheats
A sperm donor husband is stingy with his time and money.

A sperm donor husband makes love to his wife when he wants, not minding if the wife wants, and when the wife wants to make love; the sperm donor husband won’t be available. A sperm donor husband does not even know when his wife is in the mood or not.

A sperm donor husband is rarely available, the only time you see him at home is between the hours of midnight to 7, 8am.

A sperm donor husband hurts his wife emotionally. He does not understand the facial expression on his wife’s face.

WHO IS A FATHER?

A father is not necessarily someone who fathered a child.

A story was told of a girl who was raised by her adopted parents, only for her to find out that the adopted parents were not her biological parents after 22 years. She refused going back to the man and woman that claims to be her biological parents. She said that the only parents she knows are the ones that gave her life a meaning, that gave her some sense of belonging, that cared for her and was there for her. And I totally agree with her, that a man donated a sperm to make a baby does not necessarily make him a father.

A sperm donor  father does not know the full name of his children’s school talk more of the location and address of the school. He is busy.

A sperm donor father does not want his kids around him, he is that daddy that the kids will run and hide anytime they hear his horn, even from far.

A sperm donor father is a night walker.

A sperm donor father is not involved in raising his kids. He does not have time for his kids.

A sperm donor father does not know his children's' birthday, he can only remember the birth year, may be just for the first child.

Some fathers don’t see face to face with their kids for days, even when they are all under one roof. By the time he is coming back at night, his kids are already in bed, by the time they will be leaving for school the next day, he will still be in bed.

Some sperm donor fathers spend money on their kids, (some are still very stingy too with their money) but their time is spent with the boys outside.

A sperm donor father is always busy even on Sundays.

Dear daddy, give your child a childhood memory of you, something to remember daddy for, when daddy is not around, something to tell school mates about daddy. Let your child know you, daddy,get involved with raising your kids.  No matter how much you work hard to provide for the family please provide your time too for the family, they need it.

If you are a husband/father and you still appear ceremoniously in your house or a night walker, your kids rarely sees you or even know you or uninvolved in the lives of your wife and kids, this is a call for you to go home to your family. One day those friends out there will leave you or will relocate, but your family will always be there.

 DON’T FORGET TO SHARE WITH FATHERS, HUSBANDS AND BROTHERS AND EVERYONE.

DO YOU THINK THERE IS NOTHING LIKE A CEREMONIAL FATHER/HUSBAND? DROP YOUR OPINION IN THE COMMENT BOX.

DO YOU THINK DONATING A SPERM TO MAKE A BABY MAKES ONE A FATHER? FEEL FREE TO SHARE YOUR VIEWS IN THE COMMENT BOX.

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TILL I BEEP YOU AGAIN......STAY HAPPY ALWAYS.......