NOW, THIS IS WHAT I CALL TRUE LOVE..............

The number one evidence of true love.

Love! Love!! Love!!

It is a word on the lips of every human. Everyone wants to love and be loved in return.

Love to me is a compound word, it is unexplainable, it is a verb, an action doing word. Love is something you do or will I say act, not a word you just say or a feeling.

I love you is more than just a statement of love, it is an act.

True love is known by what one does and not by what one says or did not say.

Love is more than just a feeling of emotion.

The question on the mind of every one in love is; Am I truly in love?

Some have found the answer to this question while some are still trying to find the answer. I have tried to provide just a little insight to the answer.

To me, the number one, most important evidence or sign of true love or being in love is GIVING.

In the scriptures, it is said that God so much love the world that he GAVE his only son. God gave to show His love and how much he loves us.

God’s love for the world was shown by his generosity in giving. He did not just give anything, or something valueless, or something that did not mean anything to him, he gave the most precious thing he had, he gave his only son. Jesus, in turn loved the world so much that he gave his life, to give a life is not a thing of joke. That love must be very strong, true and real.

I cannot in anyway compare Gods love to human love, God himself is love, and we are only learning to love.

But then, you cannot claim to love someone or to be in love with someone and gives that person nothing. 

Love without giving is a lie. There are so many things you can and will give to the one you love, encouragement, advice, support.

You may say, but I don’t have anything to give to the one I love. You have a lot to give to someone you claim or you say that you love….

Time; time is one of the world’s most expensive yet very scarce commodity. You can’t claim you love someone or to be in love with someone and you hardly give that person your time, and you hardly spend quality time with your lover. If you are always too busy to have time for someone you love, then you may need to question that your love. If you say you love someone, create time; find time even when and where there is no time, make out time for the one you love.

Attention; it may mean the same thing with giving time, but not in totality. While you may be spending time with your partner, your attention may be somewhere else, maybe with your phone, or another person around, or you are just absentminded. In this era of social media, you might be spending time or hanging out with your partner but your whole attention is on your phone, chatting with someone far away. While giving your partner your time, make sure you are giving your attention too in totality.

Money/resources; this is non-negotiable where there is true and real love. How can you claim or say you love someone, and you find it difficult to give that person your money? If you are still stingy towards the one you say you love, then you are still a learner. You are stingy towards your lover, then that love has a comma.

Money is not love, but I doubt if you can successfully separate the two. They both work hand in hand. Even when the money or resources is not much or not even there, just give the little you have, or will I say share the little you have, after all there is love in sharing. Just give, no matter how little. I don’t mean men only should give money; women too can and should give money too.

Body;  if you love your partner, then giving your body to him/her shouldn’t be a big deal. Even the bible said “the wife’s body does not belong to her but belongs to her husband and so is the man’s body.

Sex is not love that is why having sex and making love are two different things. You may have sex with anyone, but when it comes to making love, it is a different ball game. If you always complain of headache, body pains or anytime your lover touches’ you, “everything being equal “then that love has a comma. I think there is a reason why it is called making love.

Support; if you love someone, then you owe that person your 100% support in whatever he/she chooses to do. Showing support can also mean standing by your lover even when every other person or thing is standing against him/her. Sometimes this support is hard to give especially when ones idea or plan does not go down well with us, but then true love demands support. Maybe all your partner needs to excel is your support.

Encouragement; in life we face so many discouragements, trials, ups and downs, maybe that is why God created marriage and family for companionship to give humans  someone to rely on for encouragement in times of despair. One word of encouragement from someone you love will really give you motivation and courage to get up and try again.

WHEN YOU SAY “I LOVE YOU” DON’T JUST SAY IT; MEAN IT AND DO IT.

What do you think lovers should give each other that I didn’t mention? Please teach me in the comment box, so I can give my husband.

TILL I COME YOUR WAY AGAIN……..

STAY HAPPY ALWAYS.

I LOVE YOU FOR READING AND I MEAN IT.

 NB; IT IS MY BLOG, IT IS ME SAYING MY PERSONAL OPINION. FEEL FREE TO DROP YOUR OPINION HERE TOO.