INFIDELITY/CHEATING IN A RELATIONSHIP
Types of cheating/infidelity
in marriage.
Cheating, infidelity,
unfaithfulness is a hot, talked about topic these days; it is no more news to
anyone.
The problem is that anytime
we hear infidelity, cheating or unfaithfulness, our minds goes to the physical
act of having sex with the opposite sex other than ones partner, husband or
wife. That may be one of it but not all of it.
Infidelity according to the
dictionary means;
Lack of religious faith,
unbelief, disbelief.
Lack of faith or lack of
being constant, especially sexual unfaithfulness.
An act of disloyalty,
dishonesty, lying, .
Infidelity/cheating can take
on different forms, emotional, physical, material, financial etc.
Infidelity can mean
different things to different people, anything that lacks full disclosure be it age, finances, educational qualifications, etc in
any form of relationship can be termed infidelity/cheating.
Sometimes people boast of
being faithful, not being the cheating type, thinking that it only takes sex to
cheat on ones partner, husband or wife.
1. Material infidelity; when
you have a property that your partner, husband or wife is not aware of, or
lacks full knowledge about, or has not seen, you are materially unfaithful to
your partner, husband or wife. I read a story of a woman who owned a house
before marriage, after marriage, she made her husband rent that her property
for them, and the man pays the rent to his wife through an agent, this woman
may not have had sex with someone else except her husband but she has committed
or is committing material infidelity. She has cheated on her husband, she is an unfaithful wife.
2. Financial infidelity;
when your partner, husband or wife, does not know how much you earn, how much
you worth, you are financially unfaithful to your partner, husband or wife.
There may be good reasons
why some people may not want to fully disclose their earnings or salary to
their partners, husbands or wives, but still it is financial infidelity. When
you hide money up and down in the house so that your partner, husband or wife
does not know you have the money, it is financial infidelity. Your salary is
100k and you told your partner, husband or wife, your salary is 50k, it is
financial infidelity. When you have some money, and your partner, husband or
wife is looking for just a fraction of what you have to solve a problem, you
are financially unfaithful to your partner. You may not have had sex with
someone else other than your partner, husband or wife, but you are heavily
cheating on your partner, husband or wife.
3. Physical infidelity; this
is now the physical act of having sex with someone else other than ones
partner, husband or wife. A scholar once said that infidelity happens in the
mind first before it graduates to the physical act of having sex. So many cases
of adultery were well thought out in the mind before it metamorphoses into the
physical act of having sex.
4. Emotional infidelity;
this is the most common and easily practiced type of infidelity/cheating. People indulge
in this type of infidelity unknowingly, or should I say unconsciously. With
this new generation of mobile phones, data, internet and chatting, it is so
very easy to commit emotional infidelity.
This type of infidelity
usually starts casually and often poses no threat initially or tends to be
harmless, but it is very dangerous.
You probably have a need to
share your problem with someone. May be marital, emotional, financial, family,
social, work related, etc, and you remember that your online friend who is
always ready to listen to you and give you attention.
When your spouse is
unavailable either due to absence from home or there is an ongoing
fight/quarrel in the home, and you need someone to talk to, then the opposite
sex friend offers you a listening ear, a shoulder to lean on, if this opposite
sex friend happens to have the same problem, the friendship bond strengthens in
no time.
When you begin to reveal your
partners, husband’s or wife’s weaknesses to the opposite sex friend, you are committing
emotional infidelity, and it may now be time to take things up to physical
infidelity, sex and you may find yourself in bed with the opposite sex friend.
With or without sex
involved, emotional infidelity is dangerous to any marriage as it makes you
emotionally unavailable to our partner, husband or wife.
When you start telling your
opposite sex friend what you are supposed to be telling your partner, husband
or wife, you are emotionally unfaithful to your partner, husband or wife.
You spend long hours talking
on the phone, gisting, chatting with your opposite sex friend you are
emotionally unfaithful to your partner, husband or wife. When you delete text
messages so your partner, husband or wife does not see it, you are on your way
to emotional infidelity.
When you lock your phone
with a password unknown to your partner, husband or wife, you are already
committing emotional infidelity.
When you start comparing
your partner, husband or wife to your opposite sex friend, you are committing
emotional infidelity.
When you are always alone with
the opposite sex friend gisting, you may start getting attached to him/her
which may give rise to emotional infidelity and consequently physical
infidelity, sex.
You may say, I have self
control, I know what I’m doing, well, I rest my case.
Did I miss any type of
cheating, infidelity, or unfaithfulness? Please tell me more about it in the
comment box.
Do you have any observations
to make or point out? Feel free and use the comment box. Criticisms are most
welcome.
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